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As I prayed for our marriage I would often see myself on the front lines of a battle field. I was always standing strait with my head bowed and one hand on Darin’s shirt so that he couldn’t get away. In some ways I felt like we had gone underground in the spirit world to fight a battle no one had been able to fight. As I stood without budging, bricks were being hurled at us, especially at my face. I would not cower but stand there and take it, blow after blow.


The other day the Lord showed me what was really happening on the front lines.

It was on the twentieth of this month and I read Proverbs like I always do. I read a verse I have read hundreds of times, even had highlighted it, but never understood it in this way before.


Proverbs 20:5

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out.


What the Lord showed me is this:


It takes a man of understanding to be able to minister to the deep part of another man’s heart.


Darin and I both had knowledge but lacked understanding. The kind of understanding that is necessary to fight for marriage in the day and age that we live.


God showed me that while I was standing there we were gaining understanding. That Jesus had one of His scarred up hands on my back, keeping me propped up and His other scarred up hand was holding on to Darin’s heart. He was telling me you can do this and telling Darin, there is no way I’m letting you go.


Without this kind of understanding we would not fulfill the purposes of God in our life.


Don’t resist God’s delay. Don’t fight against it. You are gaining understanding that only comes by persevering.



There is tremendous purpose in God’s timing and His seeming delay. The devil knows the tremendous power that comes with gaining understanding so he tries to distract us with all kinds of things to get us to give up so that the purposes of God will not be fully accomplished in our lives.



Proverbs 4:7


Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom.

Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

Esteem her, and she will exalt you;




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