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I may not see the promises of God fulfilled in my lifetime.

This is a real question and a normal fear when you are believing for an impossible situation. Though I was standing on the promises of God, had tenacious Faith, overcoming evil with good, not keeping any record of wrong and on the outward looked as if nothing was shaking me in private I did ask the Lord this question. Will I be unfulfilled the rest of my life?

James 1:12

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

! Peter 3:14

But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.

Through these verses I felt the Lord tell me that no matter what the outcome I would be blessed. I could not lose! In saying that I had to come to the place where I accepted the fact that I might not have the greatest earthly life. I knew that the eternal things that I was storing up as I persevered would be far greater than I ever imagined. I had to put my focus on the eternal and put aside my earthly dreams and desires.

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

In one of my first counseling appointments my counselor looked at me and said, “Don’t waste this trial.” I will never forget that statement. I am grateful for God’s grace and thankful I am able  to say  I’m not  wasting this trial and most importantly, we are not wasting this trial.

There is a verse in Acts 13 that talks about King David and his heart after God. The Bible says, he will do everything I want him to do. I love that verse about David. I want to be just like him. I want to do everything God asks me to do. That included having long-suffering for my family which I never ever expected I would have to do. I remember early on calling a Christian TV program. I forget which one it was but when I called them I said I need you to pray for my marriage if people knew I was asking you to pray for this they would never believe it to be true.

Another simple way I fought for my marriage.

One day when we were still separated Darin came home to visit Macy. While he was there he picked up my cell and put the name ‘Jerk’ by his phone number so that every time I called him or he called me the phone would read ‘Jerk’. I left it like that for a couple of days and then changed it to say Hope Faith Love so that every time he called I saw Hope Faith Love.


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