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Don’t be a “B”

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This is how society has begun marketing their products.

They make women look like smart bitches


men look like dumb beasts

instead of men and women being


women have somehow become


Macy and I love watching HGTV. Love it! We love watching House Hunters together and we pick which house we think the couple will buy. I remember this couple looking for a house. She wanted an updated kitchen and he wanted a garage. As I watched the show I thought to myself I would hate to be married to her…somehow the kitchen was more important than the garage and I admit that is how I would be thinking but her attitude was awful, she was being very “bitchy”. How is it that what we want is “more important” than what they want and what we feel is “more right” than what they feel.

I remember watching another episode and the wife was laughing at how even though they were looking together she was going to get her way no matter what. She said I always win. Her husband just sat there in silence not saying anything…just taking it.

I struggle with this myself. Just last summer Darin and I spent a lot of time working on our front yard. He had some specific things he wanted to do with it that I don’t know why but I didn’t like it. Something ugly just rose up in me! Ugly Ugly Ugly. As I was thinking about his ideas and getting increasingly more bothered the Holy Spirit spoke to me and said, ” Julie, Darin lets you do whatever you want on the inside of the house, can you not let him have the front yard?


Resist the urge to be Bitch

And Men

Don’t sit their like your a Beast

Go get help

Professional help if need be

I do wonder how long those couples above on HGTV are going to last


When they get divorced

Because they will

They will have to sell

Those perfect homes

They bought on national television

It makes me wonder

If that lady’s new apartment

Because that is what she’ll be able to afford

After the divorce

Is going to have a nice kitchen in it

A nice kitchen is useless if you have no one to cook for

This frustrates me so much

But most importantly I guarantee you is frustrates the heart of God


Proverbs 11:1,2

The Lord detests dishonest scales,

but accurate weights find favor with Him.

When pride comes, then comes disgrace

but with humility comes wisdom


Some of you,  all you have to do is tweek a couple things in your marriage and your good to go! Take care of it now!


One more thing I have learned over the years that is of supreme importance!

Your spouse must come 2nd only to Jesus!

There will always be needy people

and needy churches

people are always going to want more money

and want more of your time

but you only have one spouse

take care of them

put them first

often times in doing this

you are putting Jesus first

this goes for men and women

Things will not bode well for you if you do not do this

In other words if you do not change

I see apartment living in your near future



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